Dear Ethel-Mae,

I met this guy “Alan” through a mutual friend’s co-worker. We exchanged phone numbers and he called me one night to set up a date.

Our first phone call went super well. He was charming, funny and inquisitive. We talked so easily together that before we knew it, a few hours had slipped by. Alan suggested that we meet first for breakfast. I liked that idea because there wouldn’t be any alcohol involved so I could avoid having a few drinks influence my feelings (I tend to get sappy and happy with a few drinks in me!).

Anyway, the night before our date, he called to confirm our date and we talked again for nearly an hour. After hanging up, I was really excited to meet him. He was good looking (we exchanged photos over text), considerate about setting our date and seemed very interested in getting to know me.

The day arrived and we met up for breakfast. When we met, I felt an instant attraction to him and he seemed to feel it, too. We talked easily and sat down to order our breakfast. Everything was going great until the food arrived.

From the moment he took his first bite of a muffin, I thought I was going to gag. He talked with his mouth full–REALLY FULL–and didn’t seem to notice pieces of wet muffin shooting across the table at me. I was instantly turned off.  Some of his food bits even landed on my plate. I couldn’t eat my own food after that, just pushed it around my plate and drank way too much coffee. I’m sure my face must have looked pained at times, but he appeared oblivious.

I slowly found myself tuning him out, even though he could hold an interesting conversation. All I could think of was how fast I wanted to get out of there.

At the end of breakfast, he said he enjoyed the time and wanted to know if we could have dinner together. I said I’d let him know but I seriously don’t think I can stomach the idea, literally! What would you advise I do?  He truly seems like a nice person. Is not seeing someone because of bad table manners a petty reason for not dating someone?

-Turned Off By Table Manners

Dear Turned Off By Table Manners,

If we were sitting across the table from each other, our conversation would go something like this:

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